About 15 years ago Sally and I were living in another city. I was working and being treated well, things were ok except for one thing. The home we were renting was being given to an organization as a charitable donation.
The organization receiving the home was kind and generous, having given us a more than fair amount of time to move. We researched apartments in the area, but really wanted another home because we had two small children. Homes to rent in our price range were fairly scarce. However we found what seemed to be ideal. A nice place, affordable rent and in a good location.
As I was making final plans to sign the lease and pay the deposit Sally called me and told me not to do so. Keep in mind we had looked quite some time for a place and we even knew the owner. A bit confused but without question I did exactly what she said. We passed on the almost ideal home.
A few months later I was offered a job in Bloomington, IL. A hour and a half away in a city we had never considered. Had we taken the other house we would have been trapped in a lease. I was so glad we had not walked that path.
On the day that we were preparing to sign the lease Sally said not to do so. Do you know why? Because she didn’t feel it was the right thing to do. Where did she get that impression? From the Holy Spirit. She was (and is) close enough to the Lord that He can whisper to her spirit and she will obey.
Do you know why I stopped on that day? I didn’t hear from the Holy Spirit. God didn’t whisper to my spirit. I stopped because I have faith. But not only faith in God. Faith that my wife knows the voice of her Father. Faith that she knows to obey His voice. Faith not to doubt her when she brings His Word to me.
“To one person the Spirit gives the ability to give wise advice; to another the same Spirit gives a message of special knowledge.” – 1 Corinthians 12:8 (NLT)
Let me ask you a question friend. When your wife tells you she feels something is from the Lord, what is your FIRST response? To listen immediately or to question and doubt?
I am NOT saying that everything anyone ever says is “from the Lord” is necessarily so. But I am asking, how much do you trust your wife’s spiritual hearing? My wife loves me, supports me and honors me as the spiritual leader in our household. That doesn’t make me proud or haughty, it makes me humble. Humble enough to have faith that when she says the Lord has spoken to her I have trust…and we follow HER lead.
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.” – Proverbs 12:15 (ESV)
The difference between a leader and a boss is simple. A boss is always right, but a leader takes counsel from those he trusts. Be leader, take her counsel and you’ll be a happier husband.
Love you all!