This weekend my lovely bride and I are on a personal focus retreat with a few people from our church. It’s not a large group event, there are six of us plus the pastor who is leading us and another in a support/prayer role. It’s designed to allow each of us to focus on God and determine His will for the next season of our lives.
It’s not a couple’s retreat.
It’s not a marriage retreat.
It’s a you and God retreat.
Sally and I do as much as we possibly can together. We love each other’s company and enjoy our ‘us’ time very much, but that’s not the point this weekend.
This weekend is about her and God.
This weekend is about me and God.
This weekend is not about us and God.
Now, granted that God will certainly not set up a plan in His will that will take us in opposite directions. However He is speaking to us indiviually during this time.
This weekend we have to grant each other freedom. I grant her freedom from me and she grants me freedom from her. Not freedom in a sense of avoiding and not loving each other, but rather freedom to hear from the Lord without the voice of anyone else in the mix.
Why is this so important? The strength and health of your marriage are directly proportional to the strength and health of each spouse’s individual relationship with Jesus Christ. In other words if EITHER of us is not close to Jesus then our marriage suffers.
I want her to get exactly what God has for her and not what I think is best. I want her to be 100% commited to Him. He is our Father and Guide and knows far better than I what is the right plan for her…and for us.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
So this weekend my love, enjoy freedom from me.
Men, never forget that God will always be there even when we cannot. Grant her the freedom to grow in Him and He will protect you both.
God loves you and so do I.