This post has nothing to do with the movie Frozen. Of course now you have either “Let It Go” or “Do You Want to Build a Snowman” in your head. You’re welcome. Personally I prefer “Do You Want to Go To Starbucks?” done by some creative Point Loma Nazarene University students.

I want you to do something I have only recently started to master. Take one minute and think over your life. Try to see all the places you’ve failed. The time you cheated on the exam. When you tried to lose 10 pounds but the chocolate cake knew you by name. When you took up smoking and still deal with lingering health issues. The things you did with a member of the opposite sex before you were married. When you screamed at your child out of frustration  The times you held onto anger in your marriage because you were right. All the times you did not listen to the Holy Spirit.  Every horrible thing you ever have done.

Wow.  You have caused some kind of grief to God, yourself and others.  So have I.

Let it go.

Ask for God’s forgiveness.

“I, I am the one who blots out your rebellious deeds for my sake; your sins I do not remember.” – Isaiah 43:25

God has not only forgiven you, but He has already forgotten everything you did that was against His laws.  You have to let them go as well.  Stop condemning yourself.  Jesus came into the world for a specific reason, “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” (John 3:17)

Forgive yourself.

You can not, you can NOT move into the future God has planned for you if you hold onto self condemnation.

There is one other important thing.

Your spouse did some things that she regrets.  If she is a Christian she has sought and received the Lord’s forgiveness.  You must give her yours.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

Here is a secret.  One that if implemented will make you love her more and let her know that you will never condemn her.

Forgive her before she asks.  Forgive her before she know she has offended you.  Don’t even mention the offense.

Let it go.

“Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18

I am not perfect.  She is not perfect.  But she is “the righteousness of God” through Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21).  I challenge you to treat her as such.

Love you all!

-Troy