Every once in a while here at HappierHusband we bring back one of my favorite posts from the past. We do this so that 1) New readers can enjoy the content they may have missed and 2) To remind all of us that truth remains even though we may have forgotten that we learned it.
The following post first appeared nearly 6 months ago, on June 27, 2014. It was one of my first few blog posts. It is short and to the point, but very heartfelt. Since then we have had several friends and family members lose their spouses. At this Christmas season I think this is very appropriate. Please don’t overlook the importance of Before She is Gone.
Before She is Gone
I don’t want to write this post…but I will. Recently I caught a snippet of Focus on the Family on our local Christian radio station (http://wcicfm.org). Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage, was speaking and he made the following statement to women about how to value their husbands, “Ask the Lord to give you a widow’s heart, before your husband is gone.”
Of course my mind turned it around to, “Lord, give me a widower’s heart before she is gone.” Gut punch! I don’t even want to think about it. The tears start to flow. Considering how I would miss everything she brings to my heart and life. It’s almost unthinkable. But in truth it will almost certainly happen that there will be a day when one of us is gone and the other will be left behind.
On that day will you be telling yourself, “I wish I had let her know how much I loved her. I wish I could bring her back, even for a minute, to let her know that after the Lord she is everything to me.”? Or will you be able to say with confidence, ” I told her EVERY DAY that I loved her, several times a day and I KNOW she knew it was true by my words and actions. I treated her as a precious blessing, more than I ever deserved and I believe her life was better because the Lord brought us together. I did everything I could to love her and when see sees Jesus I hope she notices even the smallest reflection of our love as a couple in His countenance.”
My friends, we treat this time on Earth as if it will last for ever. It. Will. Not.
“Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” – James 4:14
Your life is short and as you age you’ll notice it more and more. Her life is short. She is yours for a time and a brief time at that. Love her while you can so that when she is no longer by your side you will not regret the time you wasted while she was yet here.
Now go and love your wife!