A few days ago I saw a comment on a recent post of a pic from 25 years ago… “Those were the good old days.” Wow. I’m not a fan of that type of attitude. Let me explain why.
When we consider the past to be better than the present and wax nostalgic there are two problems:
1) We begin to live in the past.
2) We become disappointed with our current point in time.
Living in the past means stagnation in the present and death to your God planned future. Here is the scriptural proof:
“Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” – Proverbs 29:18 (KJV)
The future of your life and your marriage depends on exactly two things: God’s plan and your belief in God’s plan. The good days are today and tomorrow and next year. To believe the best of your life is in the past is to give up all hope.
You must know this, there ARE better days ahead…unless you let them slip away. You can have the marriage of your dreams, but not if you believe the best is in the past. Is the marriage you have everything you want in marriage? Even the best marriages can grow and develop. Sally and I do devotions together, we pray together (every day), we talk about God’s plan for our life together and we do these things regularly. Have we always done these things? Nope.
For decades we didn’t pray together and do devotions together. Did we have a great marriage? Ask our friends, but I know we did. Did we have the best possible marriage? Not at all. We are MUCH closer now. The good old days? Yes they were good. Do I want back what we had then? Not a chance. Our “now” beats our “then” by a wide margin.
Growth in marriage is intentional. The future of your marriage is made in your efforts today. It takes time and focus but it’s not hard work.
Ready to stop living in “the good old days” and make the present and future better than you ever thought possible? It takes simple steps, done daily.
1) Believe it is going to be better. “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” – Hebrews 11:1 NASB
2) Pray for the Lord’s leadership and wisdom in your marriage. “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” – James 1:5
3) Make it happen. Do the small things you know to do and God will grow your marriage into something beautiful and powerful for His glory. “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin” – Zechariah 4:10a NLT
Don’t live on past successes in your marriage, be always striving to love each other more each day.