One Thing

Let’s get right to it.

Far too many couples reach a point in their marriage where the “feeling” of love is not there anymore.  Kids, job, bills, housework and many other activities contribute to taking our energy from our contribution to the marriage relationship.  Eventually you stand back and think “Do I really still love this person?  I don’t feel anything.  We seem to just be working our way through life.”

You can’t base your love on feelings, this we know.  Love is a choice.  We love because we choose to love just as in Christ God loved us. “This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.” – 1 John 4:9

Feelings are fickle and prone to change at odd times and due to current circumstances.  However feelings are where you love for your wife began.

Would you like to restore some of those feelings?  Would you like to feel the love again?  Deep in your heart?  It’s not as difficult as you might think…and only takes about 60 seconds.

Do you have 60 seconds to rekindle the fire in your heart?

This is incredibly practical.  One thing.  Think of one thing about your wife that is precious to you.  Her smile, her eyes, her compassionate heart, her giving nature, her work to keep the family on track.  One thing.

Now here is the rest of the process.  Think about that one thing and thank God for it.  Ponder it and dwell on it…for a full 60 seconds.  Then go on with your day.  That’s it!

I challenge you to do this for the next 10 days.  One thing, 60 seconds.  Perhaps you could post a singe word or two to Facebook or Twitter.  Add the hastag #onething  Then when people ask you can explain what it means and why you are doing it by sending them to the One Thing post via this link:

I am setting an appointment on my phone labeled “One Thing”.  It will go off the same time every day.  That’s my prompt.

Ready to feel the love again?  Ready to change every day by changing 60 seconds?  Take the One Thing Challenge with me!


  • David Mike

    There isn’t a day that goes by that I am not aware of how blessed I am by my wife. She is my everything and I don’t know what I would do without her. She is beautiful from the inside out and makes me a better husband for just being with her! Love this post, but I don’t think I remember a time that I felt like my feelings have drifted.

    • Troy Stoneking

      That is great to hear David! Not everyone is at the same place as you and me so I hope this post helps others. Thanks for your faithful commenting and sharing!!

  • David Mike

    Troy, started the one thing challenge this morning on Twitter & FB.

    • Troy Stoneking